(there are just some topics that one cannot avoid.)
“Ooh. How about you’re-getting-old-you-should-marry quips from older ladies?”
“Oh. I got lots of those.”
“At least it doesn’t bother you. It kinda bugs me.”
“Haha. Yesterday was the first stef-is-officially-bored-day of the year and in the middle of it, my uncle dropped by the house. Before leaving, he had to ask, ‘Ikaw, Hunny, kelan ka ikakasal?’ and i just found myself too tired of the question to say anything funny. It was quite pathetic, really.”
“They marry fast at _______ (the church i go to). Maybe you’re just picky.”
“Um, i don’t think they’re my type, or maybe I’m not theirs.”
“Not mopey goth enough for you?”
“Hahaha. oh. I don’t want mopey anymore. I dated an artist for a while but it just made me depressed because he was angsty all the time.”
“Yeah. You’re picky. Not that it’s a bad thing.”
“Yes, I think so too.”
“It still bugs me though.”
“You’re still young. Wait until you’re 27. At least a younger sister didn’t get married before you did.”
“Yeah, i’m young. And male. I really shouldn’t worry.”
“Yep, bachelors have it easy.” (At least they don’t get called an old maid.)
“I do have to worry about quality, you know.”
“So do we! But we have to wait for quality men to come to us. Guys, all you have to do is risk rejection should you find that quality woman.”
“My mom was actually commenting on the lack of balls among churched men. What do you say to that?”
“I say, amen!”
“Think that’s a general sentiment?”
“Yep. even my mom says so. Hence, I am encouraging all my guy friends to have faith and strength in their convictions– when they have prayed and sought God for it, and to not give up at the first sign of an obstacle. This also separates real men from the boys, I think.”
“That was angsty. You should write about it.”
“I think I will.”
“I agree with most of what you said, but i also know the rationalization behind why guys act that way. And I think more girls shoud go for Ruth’s strategy.”
“What’s that? Sleep at the foot of the kinsman redeemer?”
“Yeah, exactly that…”
“We’re rather short of kinsman redeemers though. We could try gleaning the fields…”
“Heh. It’s more the idea of her encouraging her man to action. It’s worth looking into.”
“Oh yes… that.”
“Overall, less starry-eyed, quixotic beliefs.”
“I suppose, for a woman, that’s much safer than expecting a man to come up with the guts himself to go after the woman he believes that the Lord has for him, no matter how difficult it may seem. The problem is that men have become passive, needing encouragement from the girls before springing into action…
“Agreed on the passivity comment. I don’t know if it’s a Christian thing or a Filipino thing. Or just a worldwide cultural epidemic. I actually know someone who had to be so certain of success to the point of him having his bridge ask point-blank his object of desire [if she likes him].”
“Yep. That’s what I’m sick of. most of my guy friends are like that. but then again, i tell girls to be kind to guys who actually put themselves out there. It’s hard enough fo guys, so girls have to be nice about it, even when they have to turn the guy down… oh, this is so going into my blog. I hope you won’t mind me quoting you.”
“As long as I come off as a stud.”
